Domestic violence is a fairly common phenomenon. The causes of its appearance can be jealousy, drunkenness, alcoholism, the pathology of the personality of one or both spouses, unprotected resentments. Anyone can be abused, but in the family, women and children most often suffer from violence. Often, a woman who lives in a situation of violence does not even know that what is happening to her is violence.
Domestic violence is a recurring cycle of increasing the frequency of physical, verbal, sexual, emotional, spiritual and economic abuse, in order to control, intimidate, inspire a feeling of fear.
Usually, psychological violence manifests itself in the form of:
• offensive comments and jokes aimed at humiliating dignity or ridiculing physical characteristics;
• control of actions (the tyrant requires a report of each step taken, organizes interrogations and limits the circle of communication for the victim);
• imposing certain attitudes of thought and opinion;
• emotional manipulation (causing certain emotions);
• instilling feelings of guilt or duty;
• depreciation of achievements.
How to proceed
• Regardless of the form of psychological violence, it is important to know that it is very difficult to cope with violence while in a relationship with the rapist. Therefore, it is very important to get out of the situation of violence first and then to already understand your partner. The way out is literally to get rid of the rapist, to escape or even to disappear from view. After all, if you are around, the rapist will find ways to influence you, as he has always done.
• It is very difficult in this situation for children if psychological violence is practiced by their parents. They often leave the house intuitively, trying to resist the violence.
• As a prophylaxis of psychological violence, it is important to develop in yourself and in two children, in my opinion, the most necessary skills: the ability to think critically and the ability to trust your feelings.
• And remember: it is not a shame to ask for help, but rather it is an important component of a person’s basic self-preservation instinct.